Ego is The Enemy – Ryan Holiday

Ego is The Enemy – Ryan Holiday

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And then Boyd concluded with words that would guide that young man and many of his peers for the rest of their lives. „To be or to do? Which way you will go?”

Ryan Holiday – Ego is The Enemy

The Advice: Okay, well, here’s what you’ll need to do step-by-step to accomplish it.

The reality: We hear what we want to hear. We do what we feel like doing, and despite being incredibly busy and working very hard, we accomplish very little. Or worse, find ourselves in a mess we never anticipated.

Ryan Holiday – Ego is The Enemy

Today books are cheaper than ever. Courses are free. Access to teachers is no longer a barrier – technology has done away with that. There is no excuse for not getting your education, and because the information we have before us is so vast, there is no excuse for ever ending that process either.

Ryan Holiday – Ego is The Enemy

It’d be far better if you were intimidated by what lies ahead – humbled by its magnitude and determined to see through regardless. Leave passion for the amateurs. Make it about what you feel you must do and say, not what you care about and whish to be. Remember Talleyrand’s epigram for diplomats, „Surtout, pas trop de zèle” („Above all, not too much zeal”). Then you will do great things. Then you will stop being your old good-intetioned, but ineffective self.

Ryan Holiday – Ego is The Enemy

Up ahead there will be: Slights. Dismissals. Little fuck yous. One-sided compromises. You’ll get yelled at. You’ll have to work behind the scenes to salvage what should have been easy. All this will make you angry. This will make you want to fight back. This will make you want to say: I am better than this. I deserve more.

Ryan Holiday – Ego is The Enemy

It doesn’t matter how talented you are, how great your connections are, how much money you have. When you want to do something – something big and important and meaningful – you will be subjected to treatment raning from indifference to outright sabotage. Count on it.

Ryan Holiday – Ego is The Enemy

So why do you do what you do? That’s the question you need to answer. Stare at it until you can. Only then will you understand what matters and what doesn’t. Only then can you say no, can you opt out of stupid races that don’t matter, or even exist. Only then is it easy to ignore „successful” people, because most of the time they aren’t – at least relative to you, and often even to themselves. Only then can you develop that quiet confidence Seneca talked about.

Ryan Holiday – Ego is The Enemy

This probably all sounds strange. Where Isocrates and Shakespeare wished us to be self-contained, self-motivated, and ruled by principle, most of us have trained to do the opposite. Our cultural values almost try to make us dependent on validation, entitled, and ruled by our emotions. For a generation parents and teachers have focused on building up everyone’s self-esteem. From there, the themes of our gurus and public figures have been almost exclusively aimed at inspiring, encouraging, and assuring us that we can do whatever we set our minds to.

In reality, this makes us weak. Yes, you, with all your talent and promise as a boy wonder or a girl-who’s-going-places. We take it for granted that you have promise. It’s why you’ve landed in the prestigious university you now attend, why you’ve secured the funding you have for your business, why you’ve been hired or promoted, why whatever opportunity you now have has fallen into your lap. As Irving Berlin put it, „Talent is only the starting point.” The question is: Will you be able to make the most of it? Or will you be your own worst enemy? Will you snuff out the flame that is just getting going?

Ryan Holiday – Ego is The Enemy

„And you’re going to have to make a decision about which direction you want to go.” Using his hands to illustrate, Boyd marked off these two directions. „If you go that way you can be somebody. You will have to make compromises and you will have to turn back on your friends. But you will be a member of the club and you will get promoted and you will get good assignments.” Then Boyd paused, to make the alternative clear. „Or,” he said, „you can go that way and you can do something – something for your country and for your Air Force and for yourself. If you decide you want to do something, you may not get promoted and you may not get the good assignments and you certainly will not be a favorite of your superiors. But you won’t have to compromise yourself. You will be true to your friends and to yourself. And your work might make a difference. To be somebody or to do something. In life there is often a roll call. That’s when you will have to make a decision.”

Ryan Holiday – Ego is The Enemy

All of us are susceptible to these obsessions of the mind – whether we run a technology startup or are working our way up the ranks of the corporate hierarchy or have fallen madly in love. The more creative we are, the easier it is to lose the thread that guides us.

Our imagination – in many senses an asset – is dangerous when it runs wild. We have to rein our perceptions in. Otherwise, lost in excitement, how can we accurately predict the future or interpret events? How can we stay hungry and aware? How can we appreciate the present moment? How can we be creative within the realm of practicality?

Ryan Holiday – Ego is The Enemy

As you become successful in your own field, your responsibilities may begin to change. Days become less and less about doing and more and more about making decisions. Such is the nature of leadership. This transition requires reevaluating and updating your identity. It requires a certain humility to put aside some of the more enjoyable or satisfying parts of your previous job. It means accepting that others might be more qualified or specialized in areas in which you considered yourself competent – or at least their time is better spent on then than yours.

Ryan Holiday – Ego is The Enemy

Early on in our careers, we may be able to make these sacrifices more easily. We can drop out of prestigious college to start our own company. Or we can tolerate being looked over once in a while. Once we’ve „made it,” the tendency is to switch to the mind-set of „getting what’s mine.” Now, all of a sudden awards and recognition matter – even though the weren’t what got us here. We need that money, that title, that media attention – not for the team or the cause, but for ourselves. Because we’ve earned it.

Ryan Holiday – Ego is The Enemy

Appearances are deceiving. Having authority is not the same as being an authority. Having the right and being right are not the same either. Being promoted doesn’t necessarily mean you’re doing good work and it doesn’t mean you are worthy of promotion (they call it failing upward in such bureaucracies). Impressing people is utterly different from being truly impressive.

Ryan Holiday – Ego is The Enemy

We surround ourselves with bullshit. With distractions. With lies about what makes us happy and what’s important. We become people we shouldn’t become and engage in destructive, awful behaviors. This unhealthy and ego-derived state hardens and becomes almost permament. Until katabasis forces us to face it.

Ryan Holiday – Ego is The Enemy

Podsumowanie

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